Saturday, March 11, 2017

Time for Renovation and New Beginnings

Happy Saturday everyone.  I hope your day is going well so far and gets even better as it goes on!!!

As some of you know, our lives have been changed so much over the past couple of months and this week is starting another new change.  This week coming is going to start the renovation of our home that we rent.

In January my brother Scott passed away leaving behind his 14 year old son to be cared for.  With open arms and a loving heart I stepped up to that place in keeping him safe, loved, and secured.  Raising teenagers isn't always easy especially when you have one that has been through so much in the last 3 years.  This child has been ripped away from his mother, put in foster care for over 2 years and then finally reunited with his father after a long process.  Only to be up and moved again three times within a year.  Through all of that he has remained positive, loving, well mannered, well behaved and has managed to keep his grades up in school.  I look at this child everyday and wonder how he has managed to stay this way.  Alot of people could not do it but he is determined to make something of himself and not let life's curve balls slow him down in becoming the best he can be.

So we currently are renting a 3 bedroom house from my BIL and don't want to move.  All 3 rooms are occupied by myself and husband, my 2 1/2 yr old grandson and my adult son.  Currently the grandson is sleeping in bed with my husband and I and I tell you what it is hard.  We have a formal dining room that we turned into an office when we moved in.  This office will now become Zane's room.  The contractors are supposed to be here Monday at 8 a.m. to start the process.  I hate that it is right off of the kitchen but it is the only room that we have for him to call his own.
The contractors will be putting up a wall where the opening is from the living room into the office, putting up a door that leads into the kitchen along with painting and putting in new carpet.  Next will be putting in new carpet in the living room, painting that and then moving onto the rest of the house.  We have some low spots in the floor in the hallway that they are going to fix as well as a spot in our bathroom floor that needs to be fixed.  So new flooring in the hallway, bathroom and then replacing the carpet in the other 3 bedrooms.  I am so thankful for my BIL who is putting this all together and paying for everything.  We contemplated on moving into a bigger house but that would mean another move for this kid again and I honestly didn't want to uproot him again.  Thankfully for my BIL recognizing this and deciding to change his 3 bedroom house into a 4 bedroom.  Not only does this make things easier on us but it will also increase the value of his property and if we ever move, which I don't foresee that happening anytime soon, it will make it more appealing for the next tenant.  It is hard to find 4 bedroom houses for rent here in Louisville.

We are in a great neighborhood that is literally 15 minutes from both my work and my sons, 5 minutes from the high school that Zane will be going to next year and 10 minutes from the expressway for my husband to get to work.  Not to mention we are within 5 miles from several major stores and restaurants.   We offered to pay for the renovations by having my BIL add a little to our rent each month but he refused.  He said that God has us taking care of kids that aren't ours for a reason and therefore he is going to take care of us for doing so.  You see we went from a family of 3 all adults to a family of 5 where we are taking care of minors.  It is an adjustment to say the least but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I have always been there for my family no matter what and this isn't any different.  Family is supposed to stick together and help and support one another.  Maybe not financially but when they can, they should.  I never thought that I would be helping raise 2 children that aren't my own but I know that GOD has a plan and a reason for everything and I honestly believe this is his plan for me.  Now don't worry, I am not going to get all religious on you but I do believe in GOD and I do believe that GOD has a plan for everyone.  

Things have not been easy since my brother passed away in January.  We still don't know the "Official" cause, we don't have his ashes because of other drama with K but that is ok.  We don't need his ashes.  We have our memories, our love and our family and that is all that matters.  I do feel that it is a bit pathetic that K took the ashes and is refusing to give them to his son.  He would like to have them for his peace of mind and some closure on being able to keep his dad close.  I just said alot more but decided to delete it.  She isn't what this post is about!!!

So now we are in the mist of having to box everything up from our office, the living room and rearrange everything else while all of this is going on.  Next it will be time to decorate both my grandson and Zane's room.  Not looking forward to that expense but it will be worth it to let these kids know they are home and are not going anywhere.  This is their safe place, a place to relax, a place to play, a place to feel loved and nurtured and above all a place to call home. 

Zane didn't have much when his dad and him were evicted and moved in with me.  Alot of it got left behind, tore up or destroyed by the sheriffs when they were putting their stuff out.  Hell this kids doesn't even have clothes outside of his school uniforms.  Can you say heart breaking?  I have tried to take him shopping for clothes but he is so used to only having his school uniform that the only thing he asked for was 2 pairs of pants to lounge in after school.  It is going to take him a bit to get used to the idea of asking for things.  He told me the other day that he feels like he shouldn't ask for anything because it would cost me money.    I told him that I may not always have the money for what he wants but I will figure a way if it is something he needs or has to have.  As for leisure items, he can ask, I may say no or not right now but ask again in a week or a month and the answer may change.  The look on his face was enough to shatter my heart.  He still asks if he can have something to eat even though I have told him that he didn't have to ask.  ANYTHING in this house that there is to eat he can eat or drink.  The only request is to let me know if he used the last of something so we can replace it.

It is heartbreaking to say the least but I know he will come around eventually.  Hell this kid has been through it.  Not only with being taken away from his mom and sibling but how he has lost his dad and moved in with his aunt.  Together we will get through this, together we will make this home and together we will make sure he knows he is Loved and Protected.  Together we are FAMILY!!!!!

I know this post kinda got off of the renovation and onto Zane but I can't help but to share his story with all of you.  He is such a sweet kid.  Here he is with my grandson at Buca di beppo where our other BIL took us the week after my brother passed away.

You can see that he is still wearing his uniform pants.  I had to get my son's jacket for him because he didn't have one.  He is truly an amazing child and I am honored to be the one to take over as his caregiver and guardian.

Feel free to leave a comment and let me know you were here.  However, I will tell you that I will not put up with negative comments about the drama.  We are moving on and I suggest you do the same if that is your intentions.

Thank you again for stopping by and taking time out of your day to visit my blog.  I hope you have a wonderful rest of the day and weekend.  

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