Monday, April 27, 2015

Wills is on my mind with this #AtoZchallenge

Wills - what we all should have but many do not.  Something that we think we have time for but we don't.  Something that we think we don't need but do.  If you don't believe me, let me tell you why.

This is something that I have taught my children for years.  They never go to bed without me telling them that I Love them.  They never hang up the phone without hearing I Love You because you may never hear their voice again.

Do you think this sounds a big dramatic?  If so then you need to click Here!! This story will explain it all to well and in detail of how not telling someone you Love them could change you.  It also gives point to my topic and the fact that we all need to have a Will.  Even I am guilty of not having one even today.  That however, is going to change.  The research is on for this one because we aren't promised tomorrow.

Here is an example of how things go after we die in regards to who gets what:

I know this is a strange subject to talk about but honestly after going through what I went through in the article above, it is worth the discussion.  There are so many things that we don't think of when we are living.  Who is going to be in charge of our stuff when we die?  Who is going to make the arrangements? What about your kids?  The other family members that your kids are close to won't be able to see anyone other then the legal parent if you die because the other parent doesn't have to let you see them.

I fought in court to see my grandchildren after my daughter died and it did me absolutely no good.  I was crushed, I lost my daughter and now I have lost my grandchildren all because my daughter didn't have a Will.  A simple piece of paper could have changed everything and we didn't have it.  Why didn't we have it?  Well to be honestly, my daughter was only 19, we didn't think she needed one.  We didn't know she was going to be killed in an accident and we surely didn't think the Dad's would show up and take the kids because they didn't see them very often and my daughter had to practically beg for the one dad to take one of my grandchildren.

Did you know that every state is different when it comes to Grandparent's Rights?  I had no clue.  I just assumed that since she lived with me the majority of my grandchildren's lives that I would get them after she passed.  Boy did I ever get a rude awakening.  I haven't seen them in almost 7 years and not a day goes by that I don't think about them and miss them.

I am fortunate enough to be the executrix for the monies that was received after her death due to Auto Insurance.  However, that does little for me having my daughter here with me and her children.  It does her children no good with not having their mommy and the daddies bouncing from one female to another.  The one constant in every child's life should be their mother.  My grandchildren were robbed of this all because of some idiot and illegals in the country.

Rather you are close to your parent's or family, I beg you to write a Will and make sure that your stuff goes to where you want it, your money is where it should be and most importantly, your child/children are with who you want them to be with.  Otherwise, everything goes to the biological parent that survived.  Here is a list of the states with Grandparent's writes and what they all mean.  I am in no way giving legal advise but I am speaking from personal experience.  This isn't something you should wait for because we aren't promised another second on this earth.

Thank you for stopping by.  I would love if you left a comment on how you have dealt with a Will.  Do you have one?  Are you planning on making one?  Have you even thought about it until now?

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