Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Life Lost Way Too Soon!!!! R.I.P. Christina We Will Miss You!

Some of you may know that I have lost a child when she was 19 and a mother of 2.  She was the center of attention and the first grandbaby of 12 grandchildren.  She was a friend, a sister, a mother, a helpful, all around kind and loving person.  This is a picture of her and my cousin Christina when my cousin got married.  They were both pregnant and doing a baby bump photo.  (please leave the comment about a white wedding dress and being pregnant at the door, I don't want or need to hear it.)

Well today I found out that I have also lost a cousin who is in her early 30's and a mother of 2 boys.  Even though her mother and I haven't spoken in a year my heart is breaking for her right now.  I just got a call that she was hit and killed.  The guy was backing out of his driveway and didn't see her.  Here is the link "Pedestrian Killed" to the article.  Although they are not releasing many details it has been confirmed by a mutual friend that it is my sweet baby cousin.   Just a couple of years ago they buried her daddy.  This is a photo she created when her mom and dad renewed their vows before he passed.  The caption on this is so true.  She was daddy's girl and now they are together forever in Heaven.

My heart is aching for her children, her mom, her grandmother and the rest of our family.  She was so full of life and always made people laugh.  If something was wrong and you needed help she was always there to help.  She always had your back no matter the situation and valued family above all else.  This world is a little darker today for this loss.

God has gained another angel in the sky to watch over us.  She is now with her daddy, grandpaw, my mom and my daughter in Heaven.

Dear God in Heaven, please watch out for Christina's family, give them comfort and wrap your arms around them and keep them safe.  Let them feel your love and know that Christina is with you watching over us all.  May they turn to you in their time of despair and know that they are never alone for you are with them always.  May the boys be comforted in the fact that their mother loved them above all else and will be watching them from Heaven.  May her mother and grandmother know that even though they had differences she loved her more then she ever admitted. Dear God, please give the family peace and love during this difficult time.  I pray for the person who was driving the vehicle and his family.  I know that they will never be the same.  I also pray for the people who witnessed this horrible tragedy for they will have a hard road for a while after witnessing this horrible scene.

Mary Alice, even though we haven't talked in a year I am truly sorry for you and the family.  I know all too well what you are going through and my prayers are with you all.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Wednesday Hodgepodge All About the Fall

Hello everyone and welcomed to another edition of Wednesday Hodgepodge from Joyce @ From this side of the pond.  Today she is talking about Fall which is only fitting considering yesterday was the first day of fall.  So join in and don't forget to leave some blog lovin.  I would love to see how you are and what your responses are.  SO leave a message with your website and I will be sure to hope over and say hi.

1. Elizabeth Lawrence is quoted as saying, 'Even if something is left undone, everyone must take time to sit still and watch the leaves turn." So have you done just that? And what did you leave undone in order to do so?

--- I have certainly done that a lot lately.  I love fall and watching all the colors turn.  It is so pretty and makes the world seem new again.  I have seriously left laundry undone which is hard for me.  I have a routine of doing it on Wednesday and Saturdays but got behind.

2. Since we're talking turning...what's one thing you feel you're doing 'every time you turn around'?

--- Constantly paying bills.  I mean seriously I have them stretched out during the month but it seems as soon as I get one paid it is time to pay it again.  It is a vicious cycle that I wish would end.  Then again, don’t we all wish it would end with the bills?

3. How hard is it for you to 'turn the other cheek?'

--- It isn’t hard for me at all.  I truly believe in Karma and trust me when I say I don’t want to get hit by the Karma bus.  I want to be a passenger on it for sure but not the intended target.

4. When did you last turn a drawer, your car, a room, or your entire house upside down looking for something? Did you find it?

--- oh oh oh I know this one…lol.  It was certainly my car.  Unfortunately it is just like my purse.  Total disorganization and has everything in it.  I was looking for this particular product that I had bought:


Leave in treatment for damaged hair, split ends and hair breakage for all types of distressed hair. Its enhanced formula repairs, strengthens and protects hair shine. Extreme Anti-Snap distressed hair treatment is an award winning product and one of Redken's best sellers.
Because my hair seems to always be frizzy and tangled.  I hate getting out of the shower and look like there is a rats nest in my hair.
****I am in Love with this product just so you know.  My hair looks and feels amazing.****

5. 'One good turn deserves another'...were you most recently on the giving or receiving end of that sentiment?

--- I am always trying to do something good for someone.  I was taught that you always do for others because you never know when you will need something done for you.  Yes actually I was.  I had a meeting last Saturday at Krispy Kreme and I went up to get a cup of coffee and when I handed the lady the money she told me to have a blessed day.  I think it is because she knew I was caring for my grandbaby while trying to further my AVON business.  But I like to think that she was raised like I was and you should always do something good for someone.

6. Red, yellow, and orange are the colors of fall. Also the colors of fruit. If you were permitted only one color of fruit in your diet, which would you choose? This question isn't as easy as it sounds, at least not for me.

--- Nice choices there Joyce…lol.  But I would have to say yellow.  The reason I choose yellow is because of bananas.  You can fix them in bread, you can use them in salads, they are a great source of potassium which we all need and they are sweet.

The Hunt for Red October, October Sky, Halloween...which 'October' film is your favorite?

---- Well I don’t like scary movies so it sure isn’t Halloween.  As for the other two I would have to go with The Hunt for Red October for the simple fact that I love Sean Connery.  I don’t care who you are that man is sexy.  As for the October Sky, well honestly, I have never seen it.

8. Insert your own random thought here.

--- Wow what a weekend and week it has been.  Saturday like I said earlier I had an AVON meeting that I had to take my grandbaby on because my daughter had to work.  Then Sunday was pretty busy because I signed up 2 brand new AVON representatives and then did deliveries.  Then Monday from Hell rolled around.  My daughter had to work until 2 and when I picked her up she wasn’t feeling all that well.  So I took her home and dropped her off and when I got home with the baby at 6 my daughter got up and was sick as a dog.

I ended up taking both her and the baby to the E.R. Monday night and she was diagnosed with the flu.  They admitted her and sent the baby home with me.  He has congestion and they are treating him as if he has the flu as a precaution since mommy has it.  So my oldest baby is still in the hospital and not sure when she is getting out and the baby is home with me. 

Daycare called and said that the baby was running a fever of 100.1 and wanted me to bring some Tylenol to them.  So I did and when I got there I found out that they took his temperature under his arm which meant it wasn’t a correct reading.  I got there and he was just smiling and cooing at me and didn’t feel hot at all.

Now I am back at work playing catch up from being out on Tuesday because the baby couldn’t go to daycare for 24 hrs and we have girl that left this week and won’t have a replacement until Monday next week.

Then I got the flu shoot today which I didn’t want to get but figured since my daughter is already sick and I am taking care of the baby the last thing we need is for me to get the flu. 

Plus I am fighting with myself over if I should leave my son who is 20 at home by himself for Thanksgiving while the rest of us go to my sister-in-laws and brothers house.  I asked him to take off work but someone else already requested it.  However, we are having Thanksgiving on the 16th at the in-laws so at least he can share it with us there.

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Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Confusion, Deceit, Hurt and Love

I seen this quote and thought it would be perfect for the weekend/week I have been having so far.  Today I am writing about something that has been an issue for awhile now and I think I have finally gotten it all straightened out and behind me/us.

The weekend started out even though it was rainy and cool on Friday.  I was not about to let that get to me though.  I had plans for Saturday and hoped like hell that the weather would let up and it be a nice day.  I got up at 5:30 on a Saturday morning to get to an event that my fellow AVON Rep and I were doing that was suppose to have an attendance of about 22K to 25K people at it.  I was the first in line which surprised me because we had been told that usually by 6 a.m. or so that there would already be a line of cars waiting to get into the event to set up.  Luckily that was not the case this morning.  However, Lisa did get stuck in the long line of traffic for about 45 minutes.  When she finally got there we got things set up and ready to go.  Here is a pic of Lisa after we got everything together.

It was cool, cloudy and not as busy as they anticipated.  We did however get 94 potential new customers, 11 orders, 7 people interested in the AVON Opportunity and signed up 1 person on the spot.  Needless to say after being there at a little after 6 a.m. and not leaving until almost 7 p.m. we were exhausted from standing on our feet all day.  But it was good all in all.

So now lets move on to the bad part and the issue that has been going on for awhile.  This is where the confusion, deceit and hurt come in.

I have been dealing with a person who has accused me of having an affair with her husband that is my ex-husband.  Now mind you I am Happily Married and have been telling this woman this for sometime but she wouldn't let it go.  She kept sending me text messages with the acquisitions and threatening me.  Even though I have told her over and over and over that we are not.  Well Monday was the last straw for me.  She sent me a text message telling me to treat him good because he deserved it.

I immediately called when I received the message because I was getting tired of telling her that we weren't having an affair.  At this point this is how I was feeling only alot more meaner.

Well I called my ex-husband and just blasted him over this stupid ridiculous bullshit and told him about all of it.  Well apparently he called her and said something because she called me like 20 minutes later.  From a restricted number I might add.  I knew it was her, I just felt it.  So when I answered the phone I was less then nice.

Now mind you this is the first time I have actually talked to her in over a year.  I have no reason to talk to her.  But I was more then ready to put an end to this.  I mean this was literally to the point of harassment and me going to take out a warrant on her just to make her stop.

So I asked her why she thought he and I were having an affair and I like to have fell over when she told me.  Here is her reason, no joke, "because you all talk all the time".  "Seriously, because we talk you think we are having an affair?  Yes we talk because we have children together.   Our oldest son doesn't talk to me so I have to call his dad to find out how things are with him and our younger son doesn't talk to his dad so he calls to find out about him.   Of course we talk." Then she proceeded to tell me that I can call her because she talks to my older son and I flat out told her that I don't have to call her because she isn't the mother and she isn't the father.  So she asked why we only talked during his work hours and I quickly corrected her and told her that wasn't the only times that we talk but the main reason he won't answer his phone when I call and she is around is because he said she is "f**cking nuts".  That isn't my problem that is his.  I don't care.  I have talked to him several times sitting next to my husband.

Finally, she started to realize that her assumption was completely wrong.  She started crying and telling me all kinds of things and being the compassionate person that I am started to give her advice on her marriage.  Weird right, she is married to my ex.

Anyway, she was complaining that they aren't like they used to be and how things are so different and so on and so forth.  I explained to her that her husband does love her because he has told me numerous of times and that he wasn't cheating on her but her acting crazy makes them both unhappy.  If you aren't happy then don't stay in the relationship.  Don't argue in front of your kids and let them see that you are having problems because what they see growing up is how they will be when they are grown.

I told her that no matter what the outcome is she cannot let them kids see them fighting.  She needs to suck it up rather she is falling apart on the inside or not and make sure that them kids know that they are loved, they are safe and they will be secure regardless of the end result.  I ended the call by telling her to get herself together by going and taking a long hot bath and relaxing before they get home from school and when hubby gets home to go for a walk just the two of them and talk.  If you don't change the behavior then you aren't going to change the results.

This quote is so fitting because no matter how difficult things in life are we have a choice we just have to choose to make the choice and act upon it.

So today I sent her a message asking if she took my advise.  She replayed with yes and that I probably saved her marriage.  She said he is stubborn (you think, I was married to him I know) but she thinks he realized what she was trying to say and how she feels.

So now that we got past the confusion on my part, the deceit she thought he was doing, the hurt she was feeling we are now at the love portion.  They are going to have a long road but I know that they do truly love each other and I told her that I honestly hope they can fix things.  If you truly love someone then you will figure away to work through your issues and be as one.

So I believe that even though something was starting out horribly wrong that in the end when you stop and talk about things and go straight to the source then you will find the issue you think you have really isn't an issue at all.  Just talk and be open and honest with one another.

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Monday, October 06, 2014

#Blogtober14 Day 3....One Thing I Can't Live Without

Hello everyone and welcome back to another day of #Blogtober14 with Helene@heleneinbetween and Taylor @ The Daily Tay.  There are no rules but they would appreciate it if you did link up with them.  Each day there is a link up at the bottom of the daily post.  So sit back, relax and join in on the fun.

So today's (October 3) prompt is "One Thing You Can't Live Without"...

Besides the obvious of family and friends, this one is kind of hard for me because I have several things.  But if I had to choose it would have to be Music.  Now this may be shocking to some of you because I am a die hard coffee drinker.  Yes I mean die hard because I drink it morning, noon and night.  Hell I have a cup of coffee on me most all the time except when I am sleeping.  I am not sure why I drink coffee so much because it sure don't keep me awake.  I think I have become immune to it.

Anyway, totally off track there.  The one thing I would pick would be Music.  I have to have it on when I am driving, when I am working out or somewhere in the back ground when I am at work.  It drives me crazy to have to sit in silence and let my mind just run crazy.  The silence gives me way to much time to think and the thoughts are random, jumbled and so out of order.  I don't think that the music really makes them organized, unjumbled or in order but it sure does let me have a blank mind and totally focus on the task at hand.

I do love the 80's music because it is more up beat and personal which I guess is why I am stuck in the 80's which isn't surprising if you knew me personally.  I mean seriously I have the exact same hairstyle that I had in the 80's and the only difference is that there is a little grey in

But yes I love music rather it be hip hop, classical, country, rock, hard rock or rap.  I love music.  I want to turn on the radio and blare the speakers just so I can dance around the house and clean because it makes me feel good and makes me move but at the same time keeps me focused on the task at hand.

So what about you, what is your favorite kind of music?  That One thing you CAN'T live without?  I would love to hear from you all.  Don't forget to leave a comment and let me know you stopped by.

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Friday, October 03, 2014

♥Friday Letters ♥

Hello and welcome to another edition of Friday Letters.  I hope you enjoy and don’t forget to leave a comment. 

Dear God, first and foremost, THANK YOU for another day with my family and loved ones.

Dear Mom,  I Miss You everyday and night.  I Love You and wish you were still here physically with us.  I know you are always with us in spirit and heart. ♥

Dear Heather, there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you and Miss You.  I Love You and wish you were still here with us and your kids.  You are truly missed.  Your friends still send me messages telling me that they miss you and love you.

Dear Trent, thank you for everything that you do for me and our family.  I love you beyond words.  I really enjoyed being on vacation last Friday together and spending the day with just you and me.

Dear Victoria, I am so proud of the mommy you are and the woman you have become.  You deserve all the happiness and joy that life can give you.

Dear Brandon, I hate that you always have to work at nights.  I wish you could work during the day sometimes so we could see you more.  I hate going to bed at night knowing you are not home.  It drives me crazy.

Dear KayLee and Aadyn, We Love You Both and Miss You Both terribly.  I wish that we could get to see you both and be a part of your lives.  I know in time we will get to see you again but I wish it was sooner rather than later.  You are growing up so fast and we are missing out on so much.

Dear Christian, you are so damn cute.  I Love waking up to you in the mornings.  You are such a doll baby and cuddly.  I Love You and I am so glad you are in my life.

Dear Kisha and Scott, keep your heads up.  I know things will get better just give it time.

Dear Kevin and Marie, I am glad that you got to come over last weekend.  It was good seeing you all.  Hope things are getting better for you both. 

Dear headache, go away.  I am not in the mood for you today.  It is Friday and you have stuck around all damn day today.  I am going to take my meds when I get home so you will leave.

Dear Blogging friends, thank you for stopping by and all of your great comments.  I have learned a lot from all of you.  

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#Blogtober14 Day 2...What is My Dream Job Past and Present

So I am joining up with Helene over at Helene In Between and Taylor over at The Daily Tay for October Blog Every Day event.  So Please stop by one of their links or both and join in on the fun.  Don’t forget to visit other bloggers and leave some blog loving.

So the prompt for this 2nd day of October is "What is Your Dream Job when you were young and what is it now".

I remember when I was little I wanted to be a lawyer.  I don't know if that is because I wanted to help people or just because I wanted to make sure that people didn't get away with stuff.  Yes I know it is a weird Dream Job.  So I continued to help people all of my life and even went to college for Paralegal Studies and have an Associates.  Then I realized when I went to court over an accident that I was a victim in that I was terrified of judges.  Who would have thought that considering I always wanted to be a lawyer.  

Now where this fear came from I have no clue.  I have never been in trouble, except for 2 speeding tickets, so my fear isn't warranted.  I have always handled all of my legal issues in regards to my kids and divorce without an attorney and always won.  Hell I have been offered a job 6 times by the County Attorney's office here for Child Support.  I mean seriously why pay a lawyer for something I can do myself.  As long as you have a law library in your town or city then you can look up anything there is to look up for a defense, rebuttal or reference and the clerks are always willing to help.

I remember one time I had to take my ex back to court to get custody of my son from him when he agreed to take him while I was taking care of my dying mother.  Man was that a disaster on his part.  He thought he would walk in the court room and say a bunch of B.S. about me and the whole situation and when it came my turn to speak the judge immediately ripped him a new ass.  It was hilarious and sad at the same time.  But I told him when I meet him that he better never mess with me or my kids because he would regret it.  He has learned his lesson needless to say.

So my dream job now?  Hmmm that is a bit harder for me to figure out.  I have been in Accounting for over 16 yrs now and I absolutely hate it.  But it is a job that I am good at and it pays well.  I think my dream job would be a photographer.  I love photography and I take some pretty decent photos but I want to be phenomenal at photography.  I want to be published in magazines and people say WOW at my photos.  I do have some amazing photos from various trips I have taken that I have been told by numerous people that they should be printed and mounted on my wall or that I should sell them online.  But I just haven't really had the chance to sit down and do that.

I work full-time and I also Sell AVON which I love and hope to eventually make a full-time career at it because that would give me the opportunity to pursue my dream of being a photographer.  I know that with AVON you can work your own hours, as much or as little, whenever and wherever you want to work and you can earn as much or as little as you want.  AVON has changed the lives of so many people and we have several Multi-Million Dollar AVON Representatives in the U.S. alone.  So they are doing something right.

So I guess you could say that I went from wanting to help people to wanting to observe and capture (get it)people with Photography while becoming a Full-Time AVON Representative that will be helping people with all of their beauty needs.

So What is your dream job?  Did you accomplish it or still working on it?  How did it change over the years?

Don't forget to leave a comment and then jump over to the other blogs and visit someone new.

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If I Won The Lottery with Blogtober14

So I am joining up with Helen over at Helen In Between Taylor over at The Daily Tay for October Blog Every Day event.  So Please stop by one of their links or both and join in on the fun.  Don’t forget to visit other bloggers and leave some blog loving.

So for the first day of October (yes I am behind) the prompt is:  “If I Won the Lottery, I’d” and then fill in the blank.  Wow the things running through my mind on this one.

First I would change my name, then Change my phone number, and hire an attorney.  After that I would pay off all of my debt and start buying stock in Proctor & Gamble, Microsoft, Johnson & Johnson and put the rest divided up by CD’s, various stocks, Savings Accounts and bank accounts.  After all the banks can only insure so much. 

I would go on to start a 501 fund in my late daughters name for single mothers and orphaned children.   Start a charity for our Veterans because they have sacrificed so much for our freedom and it would be nice to be able to give back something to them for that service.

After all of the above I would go traveling.  I want to see Paris, Rome, Venice, all of the United States which is only about 17 or so states and have a custom built house in Colorado, California, Florida and North Carolina. 

I would also set up a trust for all of my Grandchildren and buy my kids a new home that I would make them pay rent on because they need to learn responsibility.

I don’t play the lottery often because my husband buys the tickets.  The one time that I did buy tickets a lot, I bought one that had all 6 numbers that were drawn, but they were all on different lines.  I was made as a wet hen and vowed to never buy a ticket again.  But let’s face it when the lottery was up to 400 Millions I had to buy one.  Actually my whole work bought $250 worth of quick picks and we only won $3 in free tickets.  Talking about upset. 

So that is what I would do if I Won the Lottery.  How about you?  What Would you do? 

Don’t forget to link up and leave comments.  Let’s make new friends and followers.

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Thursday, October 02, 2014

What are you Thankful for? #ThankfulThursday

I am Thankful that GOD gave me one more day with the people I Love and Cherish.  The friends that I have made, the knowledge I have learned and been given, and the very air that I breathe.  ♥

I am Thankful for my husband who is my biggest supporter.  He is my friend, soul mate, rock, shoulder and advisor when things are hard for me to figure out or understand.  I Love You! ♥

I am Thankful for my daughter who is a wonderful mother and who has brought a beautiful bundle of joy into this world that will call me NiNi when he begins to talk.  He brightens my days beyond worlds.  I am so proud of who you have become.  ♥

I am Thankful for my son who has never been in trouble, works hard, is compassionate, kind, loving and always there for his family.  You make me proud to be your mother.  ♥

I am Thankful for AVON and all it has done and continues to do for me and my Family.   With AVON I have managed to earn extra money, buy things that don’t take away from the family, pay for my Car and given me 
recognition work hard work and LifeLong Friends!  ♥

I am Thankful for Sonye’ who is my mentor with AVON.  She is always there making sure that I succeed beyond doubt, gives me great ideas, encourages me no matter what and always makes me smile and laugh.  You are more than a mentor you are my sister that I never had and my friend.  Together we are going to win AVON’s Trip To Jamaica!!!!!  ♥

I am Thankful for getting to see my nephew who is in the Marines.  Thankful that he is still here with us and proud of him for defending our country so we may all sleep a little better at night.  Thank you Derek for your service, dedication and commitment!!!!  ♥

I am Thankful for all of my Family that has been there to support me and my kids through all the difficulties of burying my oldest daughter and mom.  For holding us up when we couldn’t stand on our own, for being there to listen and cry with through it all.  You all are my heart and I Love You all beyond words. ♥♥

I am Thankful for being employed and knowing I can support my family.  With all the bad news in the world it gives me piece of mind knowing that I can buy food for my family, provide a roof over their head and give them clothes to cover their backs.  Thank you Charla for hiring me and making me a part of your team.  ♥

I am Thankful for the blogging community and all of my followers.  Blogging can be hard sometimes when you don’t think you have anything interesting to say but you have all made it worth the adventure.♥

So join in and tell me what you are Thankful for?  Your husband, wife, kids, job, family.  I am sure there is something you are Thankful for.

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