Thursday, January 23, 2014

Hello's and Goodbyes May You Rest In Peace

As some of you know this past couple of weeks has been kind of crazy.  I haven't been doing posts like I have wanted to but hopefully soon things will calm down.  Probably not though considering that Avon has another great incentive going on.  If I recruit 10 people then I will win a big screen t.v.  Boy won't that come in handy.  Anyway, that is not what this post is about.

Friday I found out that my ex father-in-law passed away and it was a very sad day for alot of people who knew him.  Especially my son.  I talked with my ex mother-in-law for a long time Friday on my drive home.  We talked about everything from Don, her kids, my kids, friends, family and everything in between.  She apologized for keeping me on the phone for so long and I told her she didn't need to apologize because we have known each other for over 20 years now.  I expressed to her that I would like to come to the memorial service and pay my respects but I was concerned that it might cause a problem with me the ex husband.  She informed me that I was welcomed to come with my son if I wanted.

So last night when I came home my son informed me that the memorial service was tonight and asked if I wanted to go with him.  I told him I would go as support for him and pay my respects.  On our way there we got stuck in a horrible traffic delay and I was finally able to get to an exit to get around it.  I pray that the people in the wreck were ok.  From what we could see when we got off the expressway it looked bad but again we don't know.  My prayers are with all those involved in the wreck.

We get the memorial right after it had started so we all stood in the back of the funeral home and listened.  It was a nice service and the person giving the eulogy was right on as far as how Don was as a man.  I hadn't kept in contact with him since my ex and I split many years ago but he was still a part of my life from the past and my sons grandfather.  The service was beautiful and it had me tearing up but I was more concerned about my son.  He has experienced so much grief in the last 5 years that I was worried how he would handle it.  He handled it very well I must say and he shed his tears at to be expected.  After all it was his grandfather even though they hadn't really kept in contact for many years.  My son loved his grandpaw and was extremely close to him for the majority of his life.  Even after my ex and I got divorced his grandmother, grandfather and uncle Jason kept my son on the weekends that his father was to have him.  So to say they were all close was and is an understatement.

After the readings everyone walked to the front of the funeral home and paid their respects to the family.  I wasn't really looking forward to this part because my ex and I aren't on the best of term.  But I kept telling myself that this wasn't about him or me.  It was simply about being there for my son and paying my respect to the family.  So I took a deep breathe and I proceeded to the front.  I shook his hand and he looked at me and smiled and nodded.  Then I went to his sister Cindy whom I haven't seen in about 20 years, then the sister-in-law/aunt Tami who greeted us with open arms when we first got there, then to Uncle Jason, Grandma and finally Don Jr.  They all hugs me and thanked me for coming.  I wasn't really sure what to expect because like I said the ex and I don't get along.  He doesn't even have anything to do with our son.  A whole other story.

After the service everyone was invited back to Don Jr.s house for drinks and get together.  I was surprised that we were asked but we went.  I seen people I hadn't seen in years.  It was almost like it was old times.  Everyone was so nice and welcoming.  Now what happened afterwards might be different but they treated us with respect and welcomed us with open arms.  We joked and cut up and then it was time to leave.

I know that Don will be missed especially by his children.  I am a little disappointed that my ex didn't come back to the Dons house to spend more time with the rest of his family but I guess everyone deals in their own way.

Don was a military man, he loved working with those that served and was always on the move.  He was in his 80's and had lived a lifetime and seen alot in his years here on earth.  He would have been proud of his memorial service and to see all those that came out to pay their respects.  He volunteered his service without question and gave to his country proudly.  He wanted everyone to welcome, acknowledge and thank those in service for they are the reason we have our freedoms today.

So there was alot of hello's tonight to people I hadn't seen in years and a very sad good-bye to a man that loved his family and his country.  Heaven has another angel and a fighting angel that will defend anything that comes to do any harm to Heaven because that is the man he was.

So I say good-bye to you Mr. Donald Roy Herrold Sr and may you rest in peace and keep watch over those left behind.

As for everyone else, I say to you honor Don's request in thanking, acknowledging and welcoming those that have and are serving our country and continuing to fight for our freedoms.  Hug your family and tell them that they are loved, wanted and needed.  They are your everything and what holds your life together.  Because my son has lost his grandpaw, his family has lost their father, grandfather, uncle and brother in arms.

God Bless the Herrold Family and may God be with you in your time of grief.  When you look up at the sky smile because you know that Don is looking down on you.

R.I.P.  Donald Roy Herrold Sr aka pops